🌸✨ MEET SARAH ✨🌸
In celebration of International Women’s Day we are featuring the stories and self-care journeys of 7 everyday women as part of our #WOMENEMPOWERWOMEN interview series. We delve into the worlds of 7 beautiful ladies in the hopes to inspire and grow our community of empowered, self-accepting, and self-loving females.
Q: What is exciting you in your life right now?
Well, right now, I just moved to Melbourne, and it’s this whole new city, new ppl, new opportunities, new energies - just this whole prospect of newness. It’s exciting!
Q: Our mission at SELF CARE™ is all about promoting self-care, and we’re trying to make self-care mainstream. Why do you resonate with our message?
I’m such an advocate for self care. When I decided to start taking greater care of myself and became more self aware, it had such a positive flow on effect on my life. I feel like all the goals I’ve been able to achieve was definitely influenced by the fact that I had started putting myself and my wellbeing first.
Q: What does your self-care practice look?
I feel really good when I’m consistently exercising and eating now. So definitely pilates and barre is a big part of my self care ritual. I don’t really look at it like I exercise to burn calories, it’s more that I feel so good when I do that, and I’m noticing my body getting more flexible and stronger, so it feels like I’m taking really good care of myself when I do that. And I know this typical, but I’m really into face masks and taking baths, and my skincare routine is a form of self-care to me.
Q: So many people think that self-care is self-indulgent and that you need a lot of money for it. What would you say to people who would say that they can’t practice self-care because they can’t afford it?
I think there’s this misconception that self-care is just massages, but it’s actually just doing whatever you need to do to feel your best. And that’s just totally up to the individual. Really, you don’t need money for it. It’s just doing what you can with what you’ve got. It’s about doing what makes you feel good. I love the quote - ‘when you’re feeling your best, looking your best, doing your best - look at your life, and see - what are you doing, who are you with, what are you wearing, what are you eating, and consistently do that.’ I used to get massages, and get my nails done, and did those ‘treat yourself’ kind of things. But I stopped working full time so my budget got cut quite a bit. Now I use those everyday things like a skincare routine as a form of self-care. So even if you’ve had a shitty day, you can still go home and ground yourself. You can get that calmness back by doing those little things. I feel good when I feel like I’m well presented. I like doing my hair, and looking after my skin. Every night, I have a skin care routine that I do. I switch off my phone at like 9. I have my shower, do my skincare routine, and read a book. Plus, self-care and self-love is sometimes tough love. When you’re feeling shit, it’s about forcing yourself to keep going and get back into it. And there’s no expense in that.
Q: For you, was it one particular incident that got you curious about self-care?
I just remember, a couple years ago, feeling so exasperated, stressed, drained, really low, flat and lost. The situation that was going on at the time was taking up every ounce of me - in a really unhealthy way. I got to a point where I thought I just can’t feel like this anymore. I’ve always been brought up to be accountable to yourself. So if I want to feel good, or if I want something to be different, then I have to do it. And that was just the journey I went down.
I am really lucky because my Dad is really very spiritual. He introduced me to Eckhart Tolle (author of the Power of Now). He would give me these little daily blessings, and at first I would be like ‘whatever’. But at that point, I literally had nothing to lose and everything to gain, so I started to pay more attention.
Q: Do you still hold shame, and if so, where?
I had shame around the way in which I handled difficult situations in the past. But I don’t have shame around that now. It’s more about accepting that shit happens in life and I faced difficulties like everyone does, and I didn’t necessarily handle myself perfectly, but that’s fine.
Q: What is your biggest insecurity?
What people think, and how people perceive me.
Q: How do you think people perceive you?
I really don’t know. I’m definitely comfortable with myself. But sometimes I worry about the judgements of other people and expectations - like ‘you should do this and have this by the time you’re 30’.
Q: When do you feel most vulnerable?
Now. I feel really vulnerable when people open a lid and see inside. Because there’s always more under the surface. It’s difficult to talk about the struggles and the hard experiences I’ve had. Especially because of social media now. It’s all about looking good. So when things aren’t good… it can feel like you’re not supposed to show that. It’s weird though because I love hearing the stories and struggles of other people. I love learning how it’s shaped them. But it’s different hearing about someone else’s life, and me talking about mine… because there’s always that risk that people will be like ‘ummm what the fuck is wrong with your family?’
Q: When do you feel most beautiful?
I feel beautiful when I’m comfortable. So when I’m home, in my comfortable clothes, taken all my makeup off, when I’ve done my skincare, and I’m just clean and refreshed in my space.
Q: What does self-acceptance mean to you?
I think it means, genuinely accepting yourself, and not trying to fix the things you don’t like. For example, in the past I’d be like, ‘I accept myself but I will improve on x, y, and z.’ This is something I’ve struggled with. When you’ve worked so hard at things and on yourself and on your career… and then thinking that one day, it all pays off, and you’re there. But it doesn’t really work like that. You are constantly evolving.